Mainely Men 84 — Fall 2023
The MM84 gathering was held
October 6–9, 2023
What to expect at Mainely Men Gatherings
This gathering’s theme was Clearing Our Paths
Water Off a Duck’s Back: Dealing with Setbacks, Big and Small
We explored how to turn difficult moments into learning opportunities and how challenges can lead to unexpected growth.
Other Workshops on This Theme
Anticipation, Worry, Fear… and Our Comfort Zones – How do “What if…?” thoughts shape our choices? We examined how anticipation and fear influence risk‑taking, comfort zones, and living in the present. Led by Dave.
Grudges: Forgive, Forget, Let Go – We explored how holding onto hurt affects us and practiced role‑plays to understand conflict from multiple perspectives and move toward resolution. Led by Keith.
Looking Forward – A discussion on how routines, plans, and small joys keep us grounded and moving through life’s challenges. Participants shared what they’re currently looking forward to. Led by Howard.
Our Family – We reflected on how our upbringing shaped us—what we keep, what we release—and began with an “I am from…” exercise inspired by Beverly Daniel Tatum. Led by Jon.
Stop Should‑ing All Over Yourself – We looked at how self‑criticism traps us in unhealthy patterns and discussed skills for shifting toward a more empowered, positive mindset. Led by Bill.
Additional Workshops
Aging and Sex – A confidential discussion about how aging affects our sexual lives. Led by Mike, Mike, and Steve.
Answering Philosophical Questions That Stretch Your Mental Legs – Participants drew big‑picture questions and explored them together to strengthen critical thinking. Led by Rudy.
Blackout Poetry – Create poetry by erasing words from existing text to reveal new meaning. All materials provided. Led by Thomas.
Gay TV/Streaming Shows/Movies – Participants shared favorite titles and discussed LGBTQ+ representation in today’s political climate. Led by Ed.
Genealogy and Genetics – An introduction to tracing family history, using research tools, and understanding DNA testing. Led by Wayne.
Getting Past Superficiality – Pair up with someone new and move beyond small talk to genuine connection. Led by Steve.
Journeying to Greater Comfort in Same‑Gender Intimacy – A mindful, non‑sexual touch practice focused on comfort, consent, and awareness. Led by Bill.
Nature Walk – A relaxed walk exploring the natural beauty of Pilgrim Lodge. Led by Mike.
Relationship Intelligence – Explore what makes a supportive relationship and how to cultivate those qualities. Led by Michael.
Riding a Dark Horse – A discussion on navigating anxiety, confidence, and intimacy in everyday life. Led by Bobbi.
Tai Chi – An introduction to whole‑body movement, balance, and weight shifting. Led by Mike.
“What Would You Do If…?” Bingo – A playful, introspective bingo game exploring moral choices and self‑perception. Led by Rudy.
Introducing our Pinkies: John and Charles!
A little about John and Charles:
John: No Mainely Men gathering would be complete without John. John is a master antique clockmaker and horologist, with his own business. He also pilots his own small airplane and is a talented folk musician. He leads the Topic Raffle and is a whole lot of fun.
Charles: Charles is new to Mainely Men, and we already cannot imagine a gathering without him. Charles describes himself as “a visually impaired 23-year-old with a vast fascination with antiques, specifically clocks,” and is apprenticing with John to pursue a career in antique clock repair. He’s also a darn good musician himself.
John and Charles, MM84 Pinkies