Mainely Men 85 — Spring 2024

The MM85 gathering was held
May 17–19, 2024

What to expect at Mainely Men Gatherings

The theme of MM85 was Healthy Masculinity

We discussed how to define healthy masculinity for ourselves. We explored traditional ideas of masculinity centered around entitlement and power-based relationships, how we might be contributing to these dynamics in ways we may not even realize, and how we can move toward finding joy in mentoring and stewardship.

Let us introduce our pinkies, Keith and Walter!

Pinkies change with each gathering, and for MM85 we are fortunate to have had this artistic duo, Keith and Walter!

A little about Keith and Walter:

Keith: Keith Prairie has been involved in the men’s movement since 1985, participating in men-centered weekends. Professionally, he has filled the roles of carpenter, human service worker, and computer technician. Keith remains active as a musician, playing and teaching the hammered dulcimer and singing professionally. You can find details about Keith’s musical life at his website https://prairie-music.com/.

Walter: Walter Spencer has had many jobs over the years but working both with homeless men in recovery and dads dealing with family homelessness are what sparked an interest in men’s growth and development and the topic of healthy masculinity. He has been active in several men’s gatherings and finds inspiration and serenity in this work. Walter is also a talented artist/painter.

A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.
– Muhammad Ali

Workshops directly related to the theme of Healthy Masculinity included:

Moving Away from Toxic Masculinity – We discussed what “toxic masculinity” means and explored how to define healthy masculinity for ourselves while avoiding common traps.

Healthy Masculinity and Male Friendship – We examined how emotional illiteracy and activity‑based friendships can limit connection, and how deeper friendships support men’s well‑being.

Elderhood, Mentoring, and Stewardship – We reflected on legacy, the role of elders, and how we pass on wisdom through teaching, mentoring, and stewardship.

Additional workshops included:

Aging With Dignity, Independence, and Health – A supportive conversation about the challenges and opportunities of aging, covering health, relationships, loss, and purpose. Led by Rudy and Steve.

Bowing Prostrate to the Prostate – A practical session on prostate health, screening, prevention, and informed decision‑making. Led by Jon Henry.

The Chinese Language: Yes, It’s Hard but Not Impossible – An introduction to Chinese pronunciation, writing, grammar, culture, and basic phrases. Led by Wayne.

The Legacy of Abuse – A safe space to discuss the impact of abuse, the journey from victim to survivor, and the healing power of sharing. Led by Tim.

Life Drawing Experience – Hands‑on practice drawing the human figure, with opportunities to model or sketch. Limited to eight participants. Led by Peter.

The Lost Art of Listening – A workshop on becoming fully present, improving communication, and practicing true listening. Led by Dave.

SOS (x2): Sharing Our Sorrow, Soothing Our Soul – A discussion‑based space to voice grief, loss, or regret and support one another in healing. Led by Jon Henry.

Tai Chi – An introduction to whole‑body movement, balance, and footwork. Led by Mike.